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So I've been with this site forever. I just made this account because I forgot the password to my other account and I'm pretty sure it is linked to my deactivated school account.

Anyway I want to get this whole thing off my chest and out my mind by posting about it. Please give me advice from your own personal experiences if you can... thanks.

So... my first love and my other firsts(yeahyeahyeah). The relationship lasted a bit over two years (our third and fourth year of college plus the next 6 months long distance). We did the whole planning out our future thing with each other which would have us spending five years long distance (sucks but we thought we were meant to be... as all couples do) before getting back together. I thought the long distance was going fine, she was busy with her job and I was busy with my own applications and stuff, but then she started becoming non responsive. I called her out on it and she asked if we could take a break. I said break = breakup so she asked if she could take that back. I said yes but the day after that I initiated the breakup because you don't just ask someone for a break for no reason. She had to have been wanting to see other people or was already cheating, right? So we broke up. Even though we broke up mutually, it feels like she broke up with me.

Anyway, She said she still loved me and if we ended up single in the same area when we're 30 we can give it another chance. I agreed because she's the one... right? So she wanted to keep talking as if we were friends in the meantime because that's how we got along together. We were friends. Honestly I wanted to keep talking to her too, but it hurt talking to her so I blocked her on FB and told her I wouldn't talk to her until I was ready.

I got through two months without talking to her until she texted me one day asking talk. I thought I was fine so I called. We spent the next three days talking just like when we were together, but we acknowledged we were single and hoped each other found someone else since we were each other's last resort... kinda. She told me she already slept with a coworker but it was a rebound. It shocked me since we literally just broke up, but we're both single now so whatever. However, it seemed like she was moving on while I'm stuck still thinking about her so I cut contact with her again.

So this is my current situation. Have any of you kept contact with an ex? How long should I not contact her for? Couple week/months/forever? I'd like some advice please.

Thanks

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